Saturday, December 15, 2012

Hakuna Matata..

Part of growing up for me has meant learning to accept people and things as they are. And while some things are constantly changing, others never will.

I live a life of constant change. I move multiple times a year and people come in and out of my life in a constant steady flow. Most people I meet are in my life for only a short time, and that is fine with me. We have a good time while we are working together or associated in some other way and then we part ways. Being that I don't have facebook I don't maintain artificial relationships with people that I otherwise wouldn't. That's not to say I completely lose touch with people, as I do have a cell phone and e-mail and I do periodically check in with them to see how they are or perhaps ask them a question.

Other people I meet enter my life on a more permanent basis. My closest friends are people that I have known most of my life. These people know me better than anyone, and while we are often apart we are always in touch and see each other when we can. I am, however, still meeting people as an adult who become very important to me, and I wish to keep up a more consistent relationship than other acquaintances. That is to say, I am still adding close friends to my circle.

There is a poem/ saying that someone once sent me titled "Reason, Season, or Lifetime" which really sums up the types of relationships we find in life.

Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
— Unknown

While the poem may be slightly cheesy it says some things I can certainly relate to with the number of people coming in and out of my life all the time. 

Occasionally there are people who unexpectedly become permanent fixtures in my life. Other times there are people who I really hope to be in my life for a lifetime, but for some reason or another they fade away eventually. I can't really predict who will stay and who will go, but that is okay. Sometimes it is difficult to accept that someone will no longer be in my life, but I do my best to accept it with grace and move on. As I said earlier- part of growing up is learning to accept things. I have learned to accept that there are things and people I can not change. Quite frankly it sucks sometimes, but it is life and there is truly nothing I can do about it. To paraphrase one of my favorite disney movies: "Hakuna matata.. it means no worries". 

... and as for romantic relationships- my love for travel and dedication to shorebird biology have made it impossible to maintain one. So, I guess those fall under "seasonal" relationships. Too bad too... I've met one or two that I hoped would last more than a season. C'est la vie. 

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